False Domestic Violence Allegations and Personality Disorders (2022)

Domestic violence is a major issue in our society today, laws have been made to protect those suffering from abuse in the home. It took many years for such laws to be enacted. At one time it was perfectly acceptable for a man to hit, berate and sexually assault his wife. It was considered a valid exercise of authority from husband to wife. We have come a long way. The authorities now recognize this as what it is, abuse.

Because new laws exist women can live freely without fear of violence. Many women are alive today because the court's protection. With that being said, it is also now being used as a tool by women to exercise power over men in their lives. It's a sad and disgusting result of the very laws to protect us. False allegations of domestic violence are at the very least an insult to women who are abused. It makes efforts to secure protection even harder for women who actually need it.

If you are going through a divorce or custody issue and file false charges to gain an upper hand in the suit, you are pretty much the most vile woman in my opinion. How dare you? You are disregarding a whole group of women and children who are desperate for protection from a violent abuser. And, for your own personal gain. The resources you are taking to punish your partner are being taken from others who need it.

False allegations are becoming a new weapon used by women. It's as dangerous as a gun. It's as damaging to the person you falsely accuse. Females who perpetrate such allegations are malicious and mentally disturbed. To say they are self absorbed would be an understatement. It's so much more than that. You are potentially destroying a spouses personal and professional reputation for a lifetime...and all because you want a house or alimony? Thanks for setting the women's movement back and proving to be just as bad as a man who beats his wife within an inch of her life. You are officially no different than that man.

Wakefield and Underwager (1990) determined thatfalse accusers are much more likely to have a personality disorder such as histrionic, borderline, passive-aggressive, or paranoid. False accusers appear to be highly defensive and rigid, to have poor insight and a tendency to deny personal shortcomings. They tend to be extremely concerned about and sensitive to how others perceive them.False accusers tend to confuse feelings with facts.A woman may “feel” abused or may “feel” the children are being abused, when, objectively speaking, no abuse has actually occurred (Zepezauer, 1994).

Wakefield and Underwager (1990) found that:

[False accusers] are likely to misperceive the behavior of others and to react to stressful situations in maladaptive ways. Depending upon the specific personality disorder, they are characterized by instability of mood, impulsivity, inappropriate emotional overreactions, a need for approval and attention, and difficulties handling anger and conflict.

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False accusers also have an obsessive hatred of and anger toward their ex-partner,so much so that their hatred and anger become a driving force in their lives. False accusers are individuals who hate their exes more than they love their children. Their hatred and anger trumps the needs and much ballyhooed best interests of their children.

What do we know about men who become the targets of false allegations of abuse?

They tend to be your average nice guy who has a more nurturing and passive personality. These men are unlikely to be socially aggressive or competitive and tend to lack insight into their personal relationships, which may explain why so many of these men are thrown for a loop when their ex throws them under the bus — even when she’s made threats throughout their marriage to call 911 and have him arrested (Wakefield & Underwager, 1990).

Additionally, these men, because of their sensitive and caring natures, may be more vulnerable to relationships with needy and manipulative women. Once in a relationship with a high-conflict (HCP) and/or abusive personality disordered woman (APDI), they may behave somewhat passively as they continue to naively hope that everything will magically work out in the end.

What are the identifiable characteristics of false allegation cases?

Ross and Blush (1987; 1990) have found certain patterns that characterize false allegation cases. For instance:

  1. The allegations start after separation and legal action commences.
  2. There’s a history of family dysfunction with high-conflict and other hidden underlying issues.
  3. Again, the female accuser is often a histrionic or borderline personality.
  4. The female accuser takes an angry, defensive and justifying stance.
  5. The accused male parent is generally nurturing, passive and lacks “macho” characteristics.
  6. In alleged sexual molestation cases, the child is typically a female under the age of 8.
  7. The allegations surface via the custodial parent who is typically the mother.
  8. The mother takes the child to an “expert” who corroborates the abuse and identifies the father as the culprit.
  9. The court reacts to the expert information by terminating or limiting visitation.

Ross and Blush also determined there are primarily three types of false accusers: the histrionic, the justified vindicator and the borderline.

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The histrionic personalityappears anxious and presents herself as the victim of her ex. She describes herself as physically and/or psychologically abused by her ex and worries that the children are also in danger of being victimized from him. She projects or superimposes her feelings, fears and distortions onto the children. She seems to have “unusual and inappropriate” sexual concerns about the children and may regularly examine the children’s genitals and take them for frequent medical examinations.

The justified vindicatorinitially presents as assertive and organized with a justifiable argument supported by “facts, figures and opinions supporting her evidence.” She comes across as outraged and worried about her ex’s behavior. However, as most high-conflict types do, she becomes resistant, hostile and passive-aggressive or overtly aggressive upon cross-examination of her claims. She’s likely to try to discredit any evaluator or law enforcement official that questions her assertions and may threaten to sue or file an ethics complaint.

The borderline personalityhas intense and chaotic interpersonal relationships and is prone to intense valuation and devaluation. They will attempt to punish others who they believe have abandoned or hurt them. False allegations are a highly effective way of doing this.

In my practice, I coach many men through the divorce process. Prior to pulling the pin and telling their abusive wives that the marriage is over, I help my clients create a safe exit strategy. I use the phrase “pulling the pin” deliberately, because divorcing an abusive, high-conflict and possibly personality disordered woman is often very much like handling a live grenade.

I warn every single male client who is about to divorce or break-up with an abusive partner that he may be at risk for becoming the target of false allegations.

Many men can’t comprehend how or why their partner or ex could fabricate such a lie. Even when their wives have threatened to call 911 during the relationship to intimidate and control them, they still have a difficult time believing that it could happen to them. Men whose wives or girlfriends have threatened to call the cops during their relationship to intimidate or control them are especially at risk should they decide to separate.

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False allegations, even if they’re later disproved, rarely result in a completely happy ending for the accused and the children.Family court and law officials must begin implementing serious consequences — beyond the anemic “consequence” of outpatient counseling — for both women and men who make false allegations.Perhaps if women who are inclined to make false allegations knew there would be real life consequences such as jail time, fines and loss of custody, they wouldn’t be as likely to see making false allegations as a viable option.

Now that we've covered the type of woman who is likely to file false charges let's jump into why I'm sharing this today: I am currently dealing with such a person. I have been concerned that she suffered from Borderline Personality Disorder since I first came in contact with her family. Her behavior is textbook. It's as if she's the poster child for the condition. I have extensive experience with this particular disorder. I intentionally looked for ways to dismiss my initial thoughts and hoped I was wrong. You see, this is one of the most difficult personalities to manage. They can be like a ticking time bomb in certain scenarios. The behaviors they exhibit affect everyone they come in contact with.

What are the symptoms of borderline personality disorder?

According to the DSM, Fourth Edition, Text Revision (DSM-IV-TR), to be diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, a person must show an enduring pattern of behavior that includes at least five of the following symptoms:

  • Extreme reactions—including panic, depression, rage, or frantic actions—to abandonment, whether real or perceived
  • A pattern of intense and stormy relationships with family, friends, and loved ones, often veering from extreme closeness and love (idealization) to extreme dislike or anger (devaluation)
  • Distorted and unstable self-image or sense of self, which can result in sudden changes in feelings, opinions, values, or plans and goals for the future (such as school or career choices)
  • Impulsive and often dangerous behaviors, such as spending sprees, unsafe sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, and binge eating
  • Recurring suicidal behaviors or threats or self-harming behavior, such as cutting
  • Intense and highly changeable moods, with each episode lasting from a few hours to a few days
  • Chronic feelings of emptiness and/or boredom
  • Inappropriate, intense anger or problems controlling anger
  • Having stress-related paranoid thoughts or severe dissociative symptoms, such as feeling cut off from oneself, observing oneself from outside the body, or losing touch with reality.

Seemingly mundane events may trigger symptoms. For example, people with borderline personality disorder may feel angry and distressed over minor separations—such as vacations, business trips, or sudden changes of plans—from people to whom they feel close. Studies show that people with this disorder may see anger in an emotionally neutral faceand have a stronger reaction to words with negative meanings than people who do not have the disorder.

I can give specific examples of how all of the necessary criteria fit her personally. Extreme reactions with perceived abandonment? When her husband finally broke and he asked for a divorce she flew into a frantic flurry. She hit him, ripped his shirt and bawled and then begged for him to reconsider. She then tried to seduce him and acted shocked when sex didn't convince him to reconsider. She threatened to commit suicide if he proceeded. When she realized her mania wouldn't change his mind she went on the offensive. She quickly filed for divorce first, had all of his guns removed from the home. Quickly made an appointment with a mental health care provider and got a record of her alleged anxiety, and fear of him.

She was a chronic adulterer. For at least 75% of the 12 years married. Not just one man but several...in several countries. It had nothing to do with the marriage but the inability to fill the void she felt inside. Most happened during minor separations from her husband. It was as if she couldn't stand being alone. If her entire identity was wrapped up in it. Co-dependent is not even a good term for this behavior.

She threatened suicide several times within the marriage. Always when she felt as if she was possibly losing her husband.

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She has no close friends. She could make friends but could not keep them longer than a few months. Most women have life long girlfriends since childhood. She did not appear to have a single relationship remotely near this.

She told her husband that every man she ever maintained a relationship with abused her. This was actually my very first indication there was something bigger going on with her. She also indicated that her relationship with both parents was either nonexistent or contentious. She did not have a single healthy relationship.

When facing her divorce she became obsessed with making her husband an evil villain. More than that, she began planting the seed of her role as a victim. She called every family member and friend they had fishing for sympathy and any information they may have. I personally witnessed this entirely embarrassing situation for her husband. She actually called his parents and his teenage son to inform them of the pending divorce. She did not ever have regular contact with them during the relationship. He hadn't even told them of the decision to divorce.

After he asked for a divorce she refused to move on. She instead installed a deadbolt lock on their marital bedroom door and accused him of having secret cameras installed in the home and poisoning her dog. The paranoia was so irrational it seemed manufactured. At one point she burst into the office while we were chatting via Skype. She slammed the video camera down and accused us of spying on her. The office door had been closed and I didn't even know she was in the home during the conversation. It was really concerning. I was actually at a loss for words. She literally addressed me personally. Stating some nonsense about not giving me permission to record her. I had absolutely no idea what she was referring to.

She filed a temporary restraining order on him last week. She did everything a false allegation perpetrator does. The complaint was almost comical and a little sad. It's sad to know someone can be that depraved and sadder to know that she's doing this to someone I care for very much. But, we both have experience dealing with people who are troubled.

False allegations are unlawful. They can be proven as retaliation in response to a divorce case. Criminal and civil charges will apply. Perjury certainly doesn't help a spouse in a divorce. The interesting part of dealing with a person with BPD is they are irrational and impulsive. They almost never think in the long term. They are into immediate gratification. While that complaint might have felt like vindication it was short lived. I'm sure she will be moving on to the next twisted attempt to hurt him when it proves to be ineffective...

FAQs

How do you respond to BPD accusations? ›

How to reflect like a mirror:
  1. Maintain your own sense of reality despite what the other person says.
  2. Reflect the pain back to the owner.
  3. Express confidence that the person can learn to cope with his or her own feelings.
  4. Offer support.
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How do you respond to false relationship accusations? ›

How to Deal With False Accusations in a Relationship
  1. Make sure you understand what they're claiming before you respond.
  2. Empathize the accusation then speak your side.
  3. Stand your ground.
  4. If you've wronged them before, start explaining.
  5. Discuss any trust issues.
  6. Protect yourself – in as many ways as possible.
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Can BPD cause false memories? ›

Memory deficits are not recognized as a core symptom of BPD, but BPD patients have long been suspected of having inaccurate perceptions, disturbed memory processes, and an increased tendency to generate false memories about past events.

What is borderline abuser? ›

Behavior. Motivations. Manipulation (potentially verbally abusive) NPD: manipulates by discarding and devaluing others to maintain sense of self-importance. BPD: manipulates through jealousy, threats (especially of self-harm), or control to avoid abandonment.

Do people with BPD lie? ›

Lying, like other signs and symptoms of the condition, tends to occur because the person with BPD is unable to regulate their feelings and impulses. It's an act borne out of pain and fear. Often, people with BPD even believe their own lies.

Do borderlines Gaslight? ›

Certain personality types tend to be more manipulative than others. People with borderline personality disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, and sociopaths are more likely to gaslight those around them.

How do you defend yourself against false accusations? ›

How to Defend Yourself Against False Accusations
  1. Stay Calm. ...
  2. Hire an Attorney to Help You Fight Back. ...
  3. Gather Evidence. ...
  4. Challenge the Accuser's Credibility. ...
  5. Find Your Own Witnesses and Present Evidence of Your Side of the Story. ...
  6. Develop a Strategy in Criminal Defense Cases.
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How does an innocent person react when accused? ›

Key points. When falsely accused of wrongdoing, people usually feel enraged and express their anger about the unfair treatment. A new study suggests people who express their angry feelings openly are often seen as guilty.

How do you respond when someone accuses you of something you didn't do? ›

If you are accused of something you didn't do, remain silent, consult a lawyer, collect evidence, avoid contacting your abuser, and obey the court.

Do people with BPD have good memories? ›

Retrospective ratings of specific emotions (happiness, interest, anxiousness, and anger) were monitored for 24 h in 50 patients with BPD and 50 healthy controls. BPD patients' memories were biased negatively, remembering positive emotions as less intense and negative emotions as more intense than controls.

How do you respond to BPD rage? ›

Listen actively and be sympathetic and focus on emotions rather than the words. Ensure that you demonstrate that the person with BPD feels heard. When someone is upset or angry, it's easy and understandable to reciprocate, but it is not helpful.

How do you respond to BPD silent treatment? ›

How to respond
  1. Name the situation. Acknowledge that someone is using the silent treatment. ...
  2. Use 'I' statements. ...
  3. Acknowledge the other person's feelings. ...
  4. Apologize for words or actions. ...
  5. Cool off and arrange a time to resolve the issue. ...
  6. Avoid unhelpful responses.
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How long does an average BPD relationship last? ›

Results found in a 2014 study found the average length of a BPD relationship between those who either married or living together as partners was 7.3 years. However, there are cases where couples can stay together for 20+ years.

How do you respond to a borderline mother? ›

Set and reinforce boundaries with your borderline parent. Keep a journal to write your thoughts and feelings, especially after an upsetting interaction. Be aware of triggers (both yours and your parent's) and do your best to avoid them. Take time for yourself and see people who aren't your BPD parent.

Mental health experts discuss Heard's borderline personality disorder diagnosis, why the term “mutual abuse” is problematic, and how the cycle of abuse factors in.

Actors Johnny Depp and Amber Heard are caught in a media circus as a defamation trial around multiple accusations of domestic violence and abuse unfolds in a Virginia courtroom.. If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, you can call the 24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 for confidential support.. But rather than get caught up in sensationalism, Psych Central talked with mental health experts to learn more about the psychology of abuse.. To understand reactive abuse is to appreciate the dynamics of domestic violence and how power and control work in relationships.. Prause: ​​Many traumatic experiences, including childhood physical abuse, are associated with an increased likelihood of becoming abusive.. But in the case of Depp v. Heard, it’s become evident that many people can’t seem to look away.

How Johnny Depp and Amber Heard's split got so contentious so fast and where things stand as Depp's long-delayed defamation trial against Heard begins

"I never would've guessed he was going through a divorce, or anything like that," a source at the premiere told PEOPLE.. May 27: Heard alleges Depp abused her and goes to court to get a restraining order. In court, Heard appeared to have a visible bruise on her right eye .. Depp responds in court papers. Depp's divorce attorney Wasser said Heard's domestic abuse claims are financially motivated.. Yet Johnny cannot protect himself or Amber from media scrutiny, and Amber's anger certainly cannot drive this dissolution proceeding.". An LAPD spokesman contacted by PEOPLE said officers investigated the May 21 incident after a 911 call and saw "no evidence of any crime.". A source close to Heard told PEOPLE she was too shaken to file a report at the time.. The day Heard goes in court in L.A., Depp is in Portugal playing and making a charity appearance with his band Hollywood Vampires.. A concertgoer tells PEOPLE Depp appeared to be "fine" during the band's performance.. In a statement , Heard's lawyers said the actress decided not to report her alleged abuse to police who responded to a 911 call on May 21 in order to "protect her privacy and Johnny's career.". "Amber did not provide a statement to the LAPD in an attempt to protect her privacy and Johnny's career.". If you are experiencing domestic violence, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, or go to thehotline.org.

This course is a review of Florida laws, regulations and CE requirements pertaining to registered nurses, licensed practical nurses and nurse practitioners.

Graduates of International nursing programs or nursing programs in jurisdictions that are not members of the National Council of State Boards of Nursing (NCSBN) have additional requirements for licensure.. A Nurse currently licensed in Florida may upgrade their licenses to include multi-state practice by submitting a Multi-State License Upgrade Application, Form DH-MQA 5024, obtained here or from the Board office or on the Florida Board of Nursing website.. APRNs who prescribe medication must register with the Board of Nursing by submitting a completed Dispensing Application for Advanced Practice Registered Nurse (APRN), form number DH-MQA 1185, 10/18.. An RN who also holds a current license as an LPN may satisfy the continuing education requirement for renewal of both licenses by completing the RN requirements.. An RN who holds an APRN license may satisfy the continuing education requirement for both licenses by completing appropriate continuing education for an RN or may satisfy up to 50% of the continuing education requirement by completing continuing medical education coursework equivalent to the contact hours required (FAC, 2020).. The Florida Department of Education details in its curriculum structure the need for nursing programs to emphasize demonstrating procedures for accurate documentation and record-keeping in nurses' training.. Nursing activities that include the use of the nursing process and require the special knowledge, nursing judgment, or skills of a registered or practical nurse, including: The initial nursing assessment or any subsequent assessments; The determination of the nursing diagnosis or interpretations of nursing assessments; Establishment of the nursing care goals and development of the plan of care; and,. Tasks associated with the use of assistive devices: Caring for dentures, eyeglasses, contact lenses, and hearing aids Applying or donning established or previously fitted and adjusted prosthetic and orthotic devices Applying or donning previously fitted and adjusted orthotic braces Applying fitted antiembolus stockings Assisting with wheelchairs, walkers, or crutches Using comfort devices such as pillows, cradles, footboards, wedges, and boots Assisting with and encouraging the use of self-help devices for eating, grooming, and other personal care tasks Utilizing and assisting residents with devices for transferring, ambulation, alignment, and positioning Using restraints. Tasks associated with resident socialization, leisure activities, reality orientation, and validation techniques Tasks associated with the end of life care Tasks associated with basic first aid, CPR skills, and emergency care Tasks associated with compliance with resident's/patient's rights Tasks associated with daily documentation of CNA services provided to the resident. Inaccurate recording Misappropriating drugs, supplies, or equipment Leaving a nursing assignment without advising licensed nursing personnel Stealing from a patient Violating the integrity of a medication administration system or an information technology system Falsifying or altering patient records or nursing progress records, employment applications, or time records Violating the confidentiality of information or knowledge concerning a patient Discriminating based on race, creed, religion, sex, age, or national origin in the rendering of nursing services as it relates to the human rights and dignity of the individuals Engaging in fraud, misrepresentation, or deceit in taking the licensing examination Impersonating another licensed practitioner or permitting another person to use his certificate to practice nursing Providing false or incorrect information to the employer regarding the status of the license Practicing beyond the scope of the licensee's license, educational preparation, or nursing experience Using force against a patient, striking a patient or throwing objects at a patient Using abusive, threatening, or foul language in front of a patient or directing such language toward a patient Accepting a gift from a patient, the value of which exceeds the employer's policy regarding gifts Knowingly obtaining or using or attempting to obtain or use a patient's property with the intent to temporarily or permanently deprive the patient of the use, benefit, or possession of the funds, assets, or property, or to benefit someone other than the patient. Whether seeking a license to practice nursing by exemption or examination, those considering making Florida their home can find a worthwhile career choice as a nurse in the sunshine state.

Eyewitness testimony carries weight in a courtroom, but is one person's account enough evidence to convict someone of a crime?

The police have shown you a lineup of photos and asked you to identify the suspect.. When a legal team presents an eyewitness who can confidently identify the suspect and confirm that they saw them commit a crime, jurors are compelled to believe them.. Eyewitness testimony is not always about identifying the perpetrator.. Witnesses may also be asked about the facts of the case.. Researchers have found that the words investigators use to gather facts can influence how people respond when asked about the details of an event.. The researchers concluded that eyewitness testimony can be influenced not only by the questions police and investigators ask but also the language they use to ask them.. In this way, an investigator's "leading" question might affect how a witness recalls a crime.. Studies have shown that when law enforcement officials confirm a witness's choice in a lineup, the witness’s confidence is inflated. However, if police feedback suggests a witness failed to pick the “correct” suspect, the witness's confidence wanes, which can affect future court testimony.. To ensure the information witnesses provide is accurate, the people working on a criminal case must carefully examine how witnesses were questioned, as well as the language that law enforcement used to respond to their answers.. Jurors, judges, police investigators, and legal representatives need to be educated on the factors that affect the reliability of eyewitness accounts and understand the role eyewitness testimony plays in a criminal investigation.

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