What happens When You Ignore a Narcissist Who Dumped You? (2022)

Relationships with narcissists tend to follow a pattern that plays out again and again. They draw you in close, then when you least expect it, they abruptly withdraw. When they are done with you, they will dump you. Usually, for a reason that seems due to no fault of your own.

However, the narcissist often returns when they think they have something to gain from you again. This is known as the idealize-devalue-discard-hoover cycle for how narcissists approach relationships.

So although it may seem like your narcissist is finished with you when they dump you, it’s likely that they’re not done meddling in your life. In order to be completely rid of them, ignoring them might be your only option.

In this article, I will outline why you should ignore a narcissist who dumped you, how best to ignore them, how they might react, and how to deal with this reaction.

What happens when you ignore a narcissist who dumped you? Let’s start with why you would want to ignore a Narc?

Table of Contents:

  • Why ignoring?
  • Effects of Ignoring?
  • Does Ignoring Work?

Why Ignore a Narcissist?

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If you want to finally break the narcissistic cycle that you’ve found yourself trapped in, ignoring your narcissist might be the best thing to do. This is especially true if your narcissist has been abusing you, physically or emotionally.

Why you should ignore a narcissist who dumped you?

If you’ve been through the cycle a few times now, it’s likely that you’re exhausted. Completely ignoring the narcissist may be the only way to get the space that you need to heal.

Narcissists love to get a reaction and as soon as you give them this, you are handing your power away. This is how they get their kicks, knowing they have affected you. In order to be free of them you need to stop giving them a reaction and totally ignore them. This means giving them zero of your energy – positive or negative.

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Those with NPD feed their self-beliefs with attention and admiration from those who surround them (1). We know this as narcissistic supply and it is arguably a form of addiction (2). Whilst you’re still feeding the narcissist with supply through your reactions, you will remain in the cycle of abuse. Breaking the cycle starts with emotionally unhooking.

Nothing hurts a narcissist more than being ignored as it makes them feel insignificant and meaningless, which is their greatest fear. However, you shouldn’t ignore your narcissist purely to hurt them or to elicit a response.

Ignoring them will only work if you truly want nothing more to do with them, otherwise they will play you at your own game and probably end up winning.

You’ll want to check up on them and may be tempted to look at their social media or contact them to see if your ignoring them has really hurt them. But it’s crucial that you don’t do this; as if you do they will know they still have your attention.

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How to Ignore a narcissist?

There is a method known as the ‘grey rock’ method when dealing with narcissists. This encourages victims to make their life seem as dull, motionless and static as possible, in the hopes the narcissist will eventually get bored and leave the victim alone.

Another method is the ‘no contact’ method, which obviously involves cutting all communication with the narcissist. If this is not possible then you should try to ignore the things they do that trigger you and avoid reacting. Basically, the narcissist should believe they are no longer the center of your world.

What Are The Effects of ignoring a narcissist?

All narcissists have some characteristics in common – that’s how they can be defined as a narcissist. However, there is no ‘one size fits all’ as each individual narcissist is different. I will first discuss the different types of Narcissists and how they are different from each other. Then I will discuss how this influences the effects of ignoring the narcissist and what the effects of ignoring a Narcissist exactly are.

The 2 Different Types of Narcissists

How your narcissist will react to being ignored depends on what type of narcissist they are. They can go a few different ways, depending on their personal style. One might shrug off being ignored while another might feel like their world has ended.

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It has been suggested that there are different levels of narcissism, with some narcissists reacting in more extreme ways to being ignored than others. Some have tried to put narcissists into categories; however, even these cannot predict exactly how your narcissist will react to being ignored, although, they may provide a useful framework.

Cooper (1981) suggested there are two subgroups of narcissists:

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  • Extroverted or ‘oblivious’ narcissists – need to be the center of attention at all times and will react extremely badly to being ignored
  • Introverted or ‘timid’ narcissists – the inhibited type whose narcissism mostly plays out in fantasy, so will not act out as much when being ignored(Also known as vulnerable narcissist)

How a narcissist will react to being ignored

If you want to try and predict how your narcissist is going to react to being ignored, try to examine how they have behaved in the past. Although, we cannot predict exactly how a narcissistic individual will react, there are some typical reactions that have been observed:

  • They mimic your behaviour and ignore you right back – at first, a narcissist won’t try to reach out and find out why you’re ignoring them because they don’t care about your feelings. They will want to ‘one-up’ you by doing more of the same or at a higher intensity. This is them trying to reassert their power. Behaviours might include purposely ignoring your texts or blocking you on social media.
  • They will lash out – narcissists thrive on using others as a source to make them feel important. If you ignore them and deny them of their source, they may become enraged. They will essentially have a tantrum and throw insults and threats at you. In pronounced cases, behaviour can resemble sociopathic traits and may even get violent. Expressions of this ‘out of control’ rage will vary but may include:
  1. Stalking you on social media
  2. Stalking you physically
  3. Sending angry, nasty text messages
  4. Trying to gain information about you from your friends and family
  5. Flaunting a new partner to get back at you
  • They will use calculated and controlled manipulation – following narcissistic ‘out of control’ rage, they may shift back to more calculated and controlled manipulation. We know this as the ‘cruelty’ stage and aims to show you that they still have complete power over you. They do this to punish you and cause harm. In the mind of the Narcissist, they are entitled to do this and you deserve it. Common strategies include:

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  • Baiting – deliberately provoking and antagonizing you
  • Gaslighting – making you question your own sense of reality and/or mental health
  • Withholding or stonewalling – removing your access to information and emotional/physical resources
  • Smear campaigns – spreading false information and gossip to discredit, undermine and isolate you.

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  • They manipulate you by showing false kindness and respect – they will try to trick you into thinking they have changed. Narcissists can’t bear to lose and they may see you ignoring them as a loss. This is too bruising to their inflated egos so they will pursue you even harder, using charm and flattery to lure you back in. They might tell you that they miss you and try to ‘love bomb’ you again and use other ‘hoovering’ techniques. But once they get what they want, this will all disappear and they’ll go back to their manipulative ways.
  • They will make you feel guilty – this is to appear the victim so that you might return to the relationship with them. They may show remorse and pull at your heartstrings with promises to turn over a new leaf. They may even threaten to hurt themselves or worse, to guilt you back in to doing whatever they want

Some narcissists may even try all of these steps in succession to try and get you back under their control.

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Why Narcissists React to Being Ignored

Narcissists actually have incredibly fragile egos, although it might not seem like it as they overcompensate for this. When ignored they will react to protect themselves from seeming vulnerable.

Positive or negative engagement is a win for a narcissist; this is why they will try different techniques to get any sort of rise out of you.

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Ignoring a narcissist causes a re-enactment of a core wound in their inner child. When parents fail to satisfy developmental needs, pathological narcissism can be the result (3), as well as psychological barriers to protect themselves from pain (4). This is also known as a ‘contact-shunning personality’ (5). Losing the admiration that they are addicted to will make them feel rejected, betrayed and lonely, and their self-esteem will take a huge hit.

The narcissist’s true feelings about their self are disastrous, so they have created a fictitious character to hide their inner wounds. This character is known as their ‘ego’ or ‘false self’ and allows them to cut off from their emotions. Anything you do that challenges the reality of the false self is a threat and must be eliminated (6).

When narcissists are being ignored, the only way they know how to regain control and get back to feeling safe, is to re-establish power over you. Invalidating you validates their false selves (7).

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How to deal with a narcissist’s reaction to being ignored?

You are bound to find ignoring your narcissist quite difficult at first. Particularly if you have been in and out of relationships with them for a number of years or if they have emotionally damaged you into thinking you need them to survive.

You’ll probably be tempted to engage them, but it’s important to stay strong. You need to be completely determined and ready to rid yourself of the narcissist. It’s important to surround yourself with supportive friends and family who know about your situation and who you can talk to.

Go full no contact. This means no calls, emails, texts and especially no in-person meetings. You must continue to ignore them indefinitely until they move on. If your narcissist reacts in a particularly violent or aggressive way to being ignored you may want to consider:

  • Changing your phone number
  • Removing them from social media
  • Contacting their friends and family
  • Staying away from them and places they may go to
  • Involving the police
  • Filing for a restraining order

Does Ignoring a Narcissist Work?

This depends on what you would like the outcome to be. If you’re hoping to make your narcissist have feelings for you, it’s probably not going to work, as they don’t feel emotions the same way as you do. Emotions are simply tools the narcissist uses to manipulate others. But, if you just want to finally be rid of your narcissist, ignoring them might achieve this.

They will move on to another source of Narcissistic Supply if they realize you are really done with them and can no longer be manipulated into doing what they want. If they see no gain from continuing to pursue you, they will finally leave you alone.

If they don’t have another source of supply lined up, they could go into ‘narcissistic collapse’ and enter a state of physiological withdrawal, not unlike people who are detoxing off hard drugs (8). If you take away their supply and they can’t find it anywhere else, they may break down which could cause them to realize their narcissistic ways and seek help. In this way, we can say that ignoring a narcissist works.

However, ignoring a narcissist who ignores you can actually encourage them to ‘hoover’ as they know you want their love and respect and they can easily trick you into thinking they have changed.

But ultimately, if the narcissist realizes their game is truly up and you no longer represent usefulness, they will discard you for good. Although, they will only do this once they know you have figured them out and they no longer have anything to lose.

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Last Updated on February 14, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester

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FAQs

Do narcissists care if you ignore them? ›

Simply put, narcissists hate being ignored. They probably want to make you feel ashamed, regretful, and rattled. They want to be in control and will go to any length to keep feeling empowered. It's critical to understand that a narcissist will not leave you alone the first time you ignore them.

Will a narcissist come back after dumping you? ›

Do Narcissists Come Back to Relationships? Yes, they often do come back to relationships. A narcissist will repeat their cycle of abuse as long as they need you as a supply. Even their distressing discard performance will leave you in a firm belief they're done with you; a narcissist will come back.

How do you get over a narcissist that dumped you? ›

Avoid trying to rationalize.

Don't fall for it. Remind yourself over and over why you left to avoid getting manipulated by your narcissistic ex or, worse, ending up dating them again. The best way to do this is to maintain zero contact. Don't call or text, and block them on social media.

How do you get a narcissist to miss you after a discard? ›

Go No Contact. If you're wondering how to make a narcissist regret losing you, the simplest method is to stop communicating with them. Even when the narcissist discards you, they leave a line of communication open so they can access you whenever they need a dose of narcissistic supply.

Do narcissists punish you by ignoring you? ›

Often, a narcissist will retaliate by ignoring you. This is a means to punish you for puncturing their delusions. They're also avoiding you because a narcissist's sense of self is too unstable to resolve conflict. They are putting you in a position to make you desperate for their approval.

Will a narcissist regret losing you? ›

Do narcissists regret discarding or losing someone? It is common for people with a narcissistic personality disorder to regret discarding or losing someone, but it does not mean what you might think. If they feel regret, it is not because they hurt you. It is for losing something that they value.

Does no contact hurt a narcissist? ›

Even if the narcissist has one or two other people who want to be with them, he or she may still go into this sense of narcissistic injury and anger. So rejection and no contact are extremely painful to narcissists and they typically handle it by punishing the other person one way or another.

How do you know the narcissist has moved on? ›

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  • The narcissist no longer hides their true colors. ...
  • You feel the change. ...
  • The narcissist will no longer give you love bombs. ...
  • They are constantly irritated with you. ...
  • The narcissist ignores everything you say. ...
  • They criticize you. ...
  • They are always distant. ...
  • A narcissist will gaslight you.
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How do narcissists feel when you move on? ›

They're utterly delusional in believing that you couldn't possibly want to be with anyone else because there is no one better than them. Because you've moved on to someone new, your new partner serves as a constant reminder that they were not good enough for you, so they'll launch an attack against them.

How do you know a narcissist is gone for good? ›

Let's find out.
  • For starters, narcissists are finished with you once your narcissistic supply gets stale.
  • When they show more interest in those outsides of your relationship as they seek validation, your opinion is becoming less valuable to them.
  • They start to devalue you.
  • They finally ignore you for good.
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What narcissists do when you go no contact? ›

How does a narcissist react to No Contact?
  • They will stalk you.
  • They will call you and text you.
  • They will try to interact with you on social media.
  • They will send you emails.
  • They will show up at your workplace, embarrassing you in front of your colleagues.
  • They will wait for you in the parking lot.

Why does a narcissist dump you? ›

They will move on to another source of Narcissistic Supply if they realize you are really done with them and can no longer be manipulated into doing what they want. If they see no gain from continuing to pursue you, they will finally leave you alone.

Do narcissists want you to chase after discarding? ›

Yes, narcissists do want you to chase them. It makes them feel more desired. For narcissists, relationships are more like a business transaction. They love to be the center of attention.

Does a narcissist miss old supply? ›

In your heart, you may want very much for the narcissist to prefer you over the new supply but, the fact is, narcissists don't really miss any of their former supply sources. Narcissists don't stay in relationships because they emotionally bond with their partner(s).

How do you make a narcissist feel guilty? ›

What is this? To make a narcissist feel guilty about their actions or mistakes, they need to know that there are consequences. Let the narcissist know that you won't tolerate their actions and that you're willing to walk away from the relationship if it continues.

How do narcissists respond to silence? ›

Essentially, the narcissistic person's message is one of extreme disapproval to the degree that the silence renders the target so insignificant that he or she is ignored and becomes more or less nonexistent in the eyes of the narcissistic person.

How do narcissists punish their victims? ›

Silent Treatment Narcissists punish by ignoring. Then they let their victim off the hook by demanding an apology even though she isnt to blame. This is to modify her behavior. They also have a history of cutting others out of their life permanently over small things.

How do you make a narcissist jealous? ›

Keep busy with your own friends and activities. Show them you have a life of your own, so they want to be part of it. If the narcissist thinks that you're giving your attention and energy to other relationships, they can easily get jealous or protective.

What upsets a narcissist the most? ›

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They don't get their way, even if what they want is unreasonable. They feel that they've been criticized, even if the critique is constructive or said kindly. They're not the center of attention. They're caught breaking rules or not respecting boundaries.

What triggers the narcissist to want you back? ›

To make the narcissist want you back, remind them of what they're missing by showing them you've got plenty of new supply to give. The narcissist thrives on external validation. Because of their deep-rooted insecurities, they cannot love themselves, and they seek affirmation from outside sources.

Does my narcissistic ex think about me? ›

It's true: Your narcissistic ex will remember you but not — never — in the way you hope they will, as the “great love of their life”. Most of the time they won't even think about you and you know why: They're too busy spinning their web to snare the next unsuspecting spider.

How long until a narcissist comes back? ›

According to Dr. Darlene Lancer, many narcissists can only sustain a relationship for six months to a few years (at the most). Keep in mind, though, we're talking about one four-stage cycle. Too often, a narcissist will initiate the cycle again, training their target to expect them to come back.

How narcissists treat their exes? ›

They will bombard their exes with affection and attention

Some narcissists understand this and may seek to use their ex's attachment to satisfy their need for validation. To this end, narcissists often bombard their exes with high amounts of affection and attention at once to reel the ex back in.

Will a narcissist let you move on? ›

Breakups with narcissists don't always end the relationship. Many won't let you go, even when they are the ones who left the relationship, and even when they're with a new partner. They won't accept “no.” They hoover in an attempt to rekindle the relationship or stay friends after a breakup or divorce.

What weird things do narcissists do? ›

One of the weird things narcissists do involves destroying your happiness and relaxing moments. They will purposefully do things to prevent you from doing something as simple as sleep. Even if you had a long day or are sick, a narcissist may start a fight while you are trying to sleep.

Will a narcissist miss you? ›

The fact that a narcissist doesn't “miss” us like a normal person would miss someone they split up with is because he doesn't miss anybody. The reason that he doesn't miss anybody is because he sees every single person in his life on the same emotional level.

Do narcissists stalk their ex? ›

Stalking is often mistaken as hoovering in that once a source of supply expresses a desire to end the relationship, the narcissist refuses to give up their power by forcing themselves into the victim's world through harassing, following, and monitoring.

Are narcissists jealous when you move on? ›

For a person who is narcissistic, their self-esteem is often tied to your relationship with them. When they see that you have moved on and are now dating someone else, they will feel jealous and threatened.

What happens when a narcissist thinks you've moved on? ›

They'll feel angry that you betrayed him. So when they see that you have moved on with your life without them in it, they'll feel robbed of something that he thinks belongs to them. Stay vigilant as they might react violently and abuse you. They may even try to hurt themselves to get your sympathy.

What happens to narcissists in the end? ›

In the end, aging narcissists become more insecure, needy, and helpless. They regretfully realize that they can no longer charm anyone. As a result, they grow quieter, more submissive, and more lonely. A rough sketch of a narcissistic person shows someone who is in great need of approval and attention.

Does the narcissist discard forever? ›

Most narcissists prefer to recycle loved ones rather than discard them permanently, but when they do discard you, it is usually done in a brutal fashion. While you might be glad to be rid of them, the 'discard' may not be permanent, and the damage done can be long-lasting and extremely hurtful.

What are the weaknesses of a narcissist? ›

A monumental weakness in the narcissist is the failure to look internally and flesh out what needs to be worked on. Then, of course, the next step is to spend time improving. The narcissist sabotages any possibility of looking deep within.

Do narcissists expect you to break no contact? ›

Yes, narcissists panic and wait for you to break the No Contact. That's not because they miss your presence, it's a harsh thing to accept, but it's true. Considering a narcissist's need for control, admiration, and validation, they'll do what it takes to get it back.

How an empath destroys a narcissist? ›

When the narcissist threatens to ruin the empath's reputation by sharing secrets to keep them dependent, the super empaths will share their secrets first. Although empaths feel shame and guilt, they will take the narcissist's power away at every opportunity. And that will destroy the narcissist.

Why do narcissists leave suddenly? ›

Illnesses, aging, and job losses or promotions can act as triggers for the narcissist to suddenly abandon the relationship.

Is the Narc happy with new supply? ›

Narcissists look so happy with their new supply because they're in the love bombing and idealization phase of the narcissistic abuse cycle, their theatrical approach to seducing others makes them feel happy and inflates their ego, and because narcissists need to make others feel inadequate.

Does a narcissist want you to beg? ›

Narcissistic partners can very quickly make you feel extremely needy, and then use that against you to get everything their way. In the beginning of the relationship they give you extravagant attention, glorification, and idealization to get you hooked, and then pull it away to keep you begging for “how it used to be”.

How do you say goodbye to a narcissist? ›

Be blunt, direct, and tell them it's clear to you how they are. Tell them you're aware of their actions and they'll feel they have no real power of you. Most narcissists are driven by their sense of shame they would never admit, and you can point this out to them. They'll be astounded and confused.

How do you scare a narcissist? ›

There's nothing a narcissist fears more than being left alone. Block their phone number, unfriend them on social media, and don't even acknowledge their presence if you're ever in the same room with one another. This won't just scare a narcissist—it will devastate them.

How do you finally outsmart a narcissist? ›

How to Outsmart a Narcissist
  1. Separate yourself to cut off their narcissistic supply.
  2. Take time to heal.
  3. Take responsibility for your part in a conflict.
  4. React with empathy and respect.
  5. Act unresponsive around them.
  6. Disengage from their conversations.
  7. Set and enforce clear boundaries.

What would make a narcissist chase you? ›

Flaunt your confidence.

A narcissist wants your confidence and emotional intelligence but doesn't know how to get them, so they'll work extra hard to get close to you. They're obsessed with truly confident people and will chase them relentlessly.

Why the narcissist hates being ignored? ›

They don't like being ignored because it makes them feel powerless like they are invisible. It's important not to do it too often, though, or they will become suspicious and dig their claws in even more. It's best to mix ignoring the narcissist with a bit of attention to keep the relationship going.

What happens when you ignore a narcissist text? ›

2. The Narcissist Will Begin To Gaslight You Again. Narcissists cannot stand the idea of being ignored, so they will do anything they can to get your attention. This means that one of their favorite kinds of manipulation will pop out again – gaslighting.

How does a narcissist feel when you don't react? ›

When you don't respond, when you don't react in that way, when you don't perform in the way they want, when you don't agree with them or do something that they find agreeable, whatever opinion that is that doesn't conform to them, a narcissist will take that as criticism. The normal person won't.

Does a narcissist want you to chase them? ›

Most narcissists would love for you to chase them

Instead of love, Narcissists value attention, power, and control. By you chasing them, this gives them all of these at the same time. If you are ending a relationship with a narcissist, the best thing you can do is to grey rock them.

How do narcissists feel when you move on? ›

They're utterly delusional in believing that you couldn't possibly want to be with anyone else because there is no one better than them. Because you've moved on to someone new, your new partner serves as a constant reminder that they were not good enough for you, so they'll launch an attack against them.

What happens when you disappear on a narcissist? ›

Narcissists can't bear to lose and they may see you ignoring them as a loss. This is too bruising to their inflated egos so they will pursue you even harder, using charm and flattery to lure you back in. They might tell you that they miss you and try to 'love bomb' you again and use other 'hoovering' techniques.

Will a narcissist let you move on? ›

Breakups with narcissists don't always end the relationship. Many won't let you go, even when they are the ones who left the relationship, and even when they're with a new partner. They won't accept “no.” They hoover in an attempt to rekindle the relationship or stay friends after a breakup or divorce.

How does a narcissist handle rejection and no contact? ›

Some narcissists respond to rejection by cutting you off altogether. In doing this, they often jump into a new relationship very quickly. They usually try to flaunt this exciting new life, and they may suddenly become very active on social media as a result.

Do narcissists panic and wait for you to break no contact? ›

Yes, narcissists panic and wait for you to break the No Contact. That's not because they miss your presence, it's a harsh thing to accept, but it's true. Considering a narcissist's need for control, admiration, and validation, they'll do what it takes to get it back.

What annoys a narcissist the most? ›

8 Triggers of a Narcissist's Rage

They don't get their way, even if what they want is unreasonable. They feel that they've been criticized, even if the critique is constructive or said kindly. They're not the center of attention. They're caught breaking rules or not respecting boundaries.

Do narcissists stalk their ex? ›

Stalking is often mistaken as hoovering in that once a source of supply expresses a desire to end the relationship, the narcissist refuses to give up their power by forcing themselves into the victim's world through harassing, following, and monitoring.

How does no contact affect a narcissist? ›

A narcissist struggles with no in-person contact because they utilize body language to communicate, get their needs met, and maintain control. They have low self-esteem, and without validation, they can come become moody, angry, and irritable.

What keeps a narcissist attached to you? ›

People who are impressive in some way, either in their career, hobbies and talents, their friendship circles, or family. Someone who will make the narcissist feel good about themselves, through compliments or gestures. Anyone who will reflect well on them in the eyes of other people.

Will the narcissist miss me? ›

Narcissists do feel loss — they're human after all — but the problem with any of their feelings is that they are directed inwardly at their agenda. They are never directed toward the people they claim to care about. In this way, what they really miss is the idea of you rather than the actual you.

What triggers the narcissist to want you back? ›

To make the narcissist want you back, remind them of what they're missing by showing them you've got plenty of new supply to give. The narcissist thrives on external validation. Because of their deep-rooted insecurities, they cannot love themselves, and they seek affirmation from outside sources.

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