When Do Girls Start To Miss You After A Breakup? - Magnet of Success (2022)

If you miss your ex and you’re thinking to yourself, “When do girls start to miss you after a breakup,” I may have some good or perhaps not so good news for you.

It really depends on whether you’re looking for hope or just some information.

The truth is that girls start to miss you and think about you when you stop missing them obsessively.

When you no longer empower them and emotionally depend on them for your happiness is when dumpers often miss their relationship with you and the security they had with you.

They basically miss you when you let go of your expectations of them and stop desperately chasing after them.

Sometimes they even come back when you’ve moved on by yourself or with someone else.

That’s because women dumpers can’t miss you if they know you want them more than you need your physiological needs. It simply kills all remaining attraction and helps them detach from you.

It’s truly unfortunate, but that’s just the way attraction works in the breakup world—and there’s nothing you can do to change that.

Today, we’ll talk about the time when girls start to miss you after a breakup and the reasons why they come back.

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When do girls start to miss you after a breakup?

Female dumpers usually check up on you by sending you breadcrumbs—and disappear shortly after you’ve responded.

It’s something they frequently do to alleviate guilt and to reinforce their breakup decision.

And although girls usually don’t miss you right after the breakup, this doesn’t mean that they can’t ever miss you in the future.

After you’ve cut your ex off by following a strong regimen of indefinite no contact, you immediately set the foundation for something peculiar to occur.

Not only do you get to disconnect from your ex and focus on your own life, but your actions and inactions can cause your ex to reappear and crave that special place in your heart again.

Thanks to the power of no contact and the silence that it provides, your ex can basically want that which she can no longer have.

This includes intimacy, love, comfort, care, security, validation, and commitment—as these are the feelings only you can provide.

There is no second you, so theoretically, you’re the only person who can forgive, validate, and empower your ex when she needs it in a moment of weakness.

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Here’s when girls start to miss you after the breakup.

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Girls start to miss you in a moment of weakness

In order for your ex to require your emotional support and come running back, something bad has to injure your ex first. Something awful like another breakup, depression, or anything that forces your ex to self-reflect.

It really sucks that people have to hit a rough patch for them to think inwardly, but most people just don’t learn unless they’re forced to.

They need to experience a lot of pain and realize they’ve made a mistake the hard way.

And the same goes for your ex.

She probably needs to learn a thing or two by failing miserably first, so give your ex enough time to explore her world.

As much as it hurts, allow her to date others and do whatever her heart desires.

It’s her wish as a free person, after all.

But when she appears out of nowhere and says she misses you, you better be careful about the motives behind your ex’s actions.

The question is, does she truly miss you as a person because she’s made a mistake? Or does your ex expect you to soothe her anxiety and use you once again?

You need to understand that you’re more valuable to your ex than you may think you are.

Only you have the power to take your ex’s pain away almost instantaneously.

And your ex is well aware of that.

She knows that contacting you and getting back together with you is the quickest fix to her distressed emotional state.

As a matter of fact, your ex knows that you don’t even have to try hard to give your ex the empowerment that she’s after.

All you have to do is become your ex’s crutch so that she can rely on you for emotional support, safety, and validation.

How long before she misses me during no contact?

If you want your ex to see you as an emotionally strong person, always take care of your emotional well-being so that you appear strong and independent.

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This means you must avoid begging and pleading at all costs as it’s the worst form of disrespect both to yourself as well as to your ex.

Begging, crying, and threatening shows you’re incapable of taking care of yourself, and can coincidentally make your ex feel incredibly guilty for hurting you.

It can make your ex upset, bothered, and even angry at you for not leaving her alone after the breakup.

That’s because she’s emotionally exhausted and just wants you to find someone other than her to annoy.

You need to realize that when you demand love from your ex by force, you send a very insecure, emotionally dependent message to your ex.

You tell her that you can’t be her confident partner who can provide for himself as well as for her family.

And that’s just not the kind of codependency girls find attractive.

You want to convey to your ex that you’re doing great on your own and that you’ll be fine with or without her.

So start by following the rules of no contact immediately—if you haven’t already.

When you do, it will probably take you up to 6 months to hear from your ex—which is just enough to find happiness on your own again.

And remember to go no contact even if you don’t want your ex back and just want her to contact you for ego purposes.

No contact really is the solution to most post-breakup troubles.

What if she doesn’t contact me during no contact?

If your ex doesn’t contact you during no contact, she’s probably happy with the way things are.

Her silence means she’s enjoying her life and might be dating someone else (which is expected of a dumper).

As a dumpee, you need to understand that your ex will eventually start dating someone new even if she says she won’t.

The point of the breakup is for you and your ex to find a more compatible person after all.

So don’t be scared your ex will find someone else during no contact. She most likely will at some point because you know how it is with Tinder and dating apps these days.

From my understanding, girls generally don’t have a problem finding someone to date.

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All they need to do is create a dating profile and they get hundreds of guys to choose from.

And even if your ex doesn’t try her luck online, she’ll probably find someone new because she’ll have had enough time and opportunities to explore her world.

So don’t blame yourself if your ex doesn’t contact you during no contact. She’s probably just too busy with herself and others that she hasn’t found a reason to contact you yet.

She doesn’t feel guilty, scared, anxious, bored, and she certainly doesn’t miss you as her partner yet.

So don’t try to force your ex to process the breakup and her thoughts about you faster than she naturally can. It won’t happen even if you perform black magic on her.

Instead, wait for her to reach out on her own terms and you’ll maximize your chances of friendship and reconciliation.

How do I make my ex miss me?

You now know that you can’t make your ex miss you before she becomes receptive to you.

You also know that you can’t make her converse with you through the means of force.

So what can you do to make her miss you faster?

Well, you can’t do anything directly with your ex that suddenly makes your ex have the “what have I done” feeling.

I can tell you that sending her reminders texts, acceptance letters, threats, breaking no contact after 30 days, blocking or playing jealousy games doesn’t work.

And neither does anything that demands her attention.

Nothing works until your ex’s mentality of you changes completely on her own.

For some dumpees, it will and for others it won’t. It really depends on your ex’s surroundings and her personality and thinking patterns.

My ex is too stubborn to contact me

If your ex is open to change and isn’t a stubborn, impulsive person, your ex might eventually let go of your mistakes and converse with you normally.

But if she doesn’t, your ex doesn’t have it in her to forgive and think rationally.

Not everybody has the capacity to change their opinion of others when they are continuously reinforcing their beliefs in a negative way.

And this is what most dumpees don’t understand.

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They think that just because they used to know the dumper at her best that they understand her at her worst too.

But this just isn’t the case.

Our romantic partner at his or her best is the person we fall in love with. He or she is the personality we end up admiring and emotionally connecting to.

And if everything works as it should, our partner coincidentally reciprocates our love and gives us a sense of belonging.

As for the person at his or her worst, he or she is the person we preferably don’t want to deal with. We tend to get annoyed, angry, sad, miserable, vengeful, and disrespectful when our partner doesn’t act in consonance with our beliefs.

It happens in every relationship to every person with emotions.

But if your ex specifically made you feel these emotions and didn’t care about hurting you, then you really need to think twice about whether you really want someone like her in your life.

She won’t miss you before she misses her old self

Instead of wondering, “When do girls start to miss you after a breakup,” think about what has to happen to her before she gets to miss you.

What kind of incident has to take place for your ex to start thinking about you in a better light.

Does she have to get in a rebound relationship or date a bunch of men in order for her to realize your worth and let go of her victim mentality?

You know that she won’t just wake up one day and feel nostalgic about you.

Well, theoretically, she could if she dreams about you and starts feeling guilty for hurting you.

Dreams can have that effect on people.

But the odds that she’ll message you only to alleviate her guilt are way higher than they are for her to reconcile with you.

Especially if the breakup is still fresh

So there you have it.

Girls start to miss you after the breakup when you’ve detached from them and let them roam freely for as long as they want to.

Are you afraid your ex won’t ever miss you and contact you? Share your thoughts with us below.

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How long does it take a girl to realize she misses you after breakup? ›

The amount of absence she feels in your life will start going down. In my experience, it takes about 14-21 days for this to happen. So let's assume that your absence level in her life is about 70% after 21 days from the time you start no contact. Here are a few tactics you can use after 21 days to get her to miss you.

How do you know if a girl will come back after a breakup? ›

Signs Your Ex Will Eventually Come Back
  • 1 They leave your number unblocked.
  • 2 They're sad weeks after the breakup.
  • 3 They're active on your social media.
  • 4 They haven't returned your things.
  • 5 They keep in touch with your friends and family.
  • 6 They initiate contact regularly.
  • 7 They reminisce about the past.
6 Sept 2022

How long does it take a woman to process a breakup? ›

When looking at the timeline of breakups, many sites refer to a “study” that's actually a consumer poll a market research company conducted on behalf of Yelp. The poll's results suggest it takes an average of about 3.5 months to heal, while recovering after divorce might take closer to 1.5 years, if not longer.

How attract a girl after a break up? ›

  1. It's not too late to rekindle that flame. But it's going to take work. ...
  2. Listen to What She Says.
  3. Open Up to Her.
  4. Make the Everyday Special.
  5. Put More Effort into Your Physical Appearance.
  6. Have a Regular 'Date Night'
  7. Learn How to Make Her Fall in Love with You Again.
11 Oct 2017

Do girl dumpers miss their ex? ›

In most cases, if you give your ex enough space, they will at some point miss you. Of course, that doesn't necessarily mean they're going to get on their hands and knees and beg for you back. For some the “missing emotion” can be fleeting.

How do you know when a girl regrets losing you? ›

She apologizes and takes responsibility

Another way to know that she regrets losing you is when she apologizes for her misdeeds. She will take fault for ending the relationship even though the blame was not hers entirely. This is because she doesn't want to feel hurt and wants you to know that she has changed.

How do I know if my breakup is temporary? ›

Here are some signs your breakup is temporary:
  1. You haven't moved on. ...
  2. You still hang out together. ...
  3. They've been sending you mixed messages. ...
  4. You're learning how to communicate with your ex. ...
  5. They reminisce with you. ...
  6. They reach out during trials. ...
  7. They ask about you through friends. ...
  8. You have both been working on your issues.
28 Jul 2022

How long does it usually take an ex to come back? ›

We conducted a study on people who get their ex back and keep them and we found that most people who get their ex back and stay with their ex, took at least one month to get back together. In most cases, people reconciled within 1-6 months of breaking up.

How do I know if my breakup is final? ›

9 Ways to Tell if Your Breakup Will Last
  • It doesn't hurt … much. ...
  • There's physical distance. ...
  • Your friends don't like your ex. ...
  • There's someone new in the picture. ...
  • You've done "on-again, off-again" before. ...
  • You're good at impulse-control. ...
  • You tolerate negative emotions well. ...
  • You have good boundaries.
2 Jan 2017

Why silence is powerful after breakup? ›

There is no easy way to deal with a breakup, but remaining silent actually speaks volumes to your ex. After all, actions speak louder than words! By staying silent, you're telling your ex that you're strong, resilient, and independent. You're relying on yourself — and no one else — for your own happiness.

Who gets over a breakup faster? ›

There's a reason for this, according to new data from Match's Singles in America survey: Guys just get over breakups faster. Match surveyed more than 5,000 men and women and found that half of dudes are over a rejection in a month, while the average woman takes four months to get over it. Yup, that sounds about right.

Who hurts more after a breakup? ›

They found that women tend to be more negatively affected by breakups, reporting higher levels of both physical and emotional pain. Women averaged 6.84 in terms of emotional anguish versus 6.58 in men. In terms of physical pain, women averaged 4.21 versus men's 3.75.

Does no contact work on girls? ›

This brings us to another common question people have about the no-contact rule female psychology: “Does no contact work on women?” The answer to this question is a resounding yes. If you want to end a relationship and convince your ex to move on, going no contact is sure to work.

How long does it take for a dumper to regret? ›

The timeframe of these stages varies from person to person, and odds are, your ex may need months before they arrive at the final one in which they start to miss you so much that they reach out. Nevertheless, here's what you can expect in each stage of dumpers remorse.

Do dumpers feel regret? ›

Dumpers remorse is the residue of love. It's an emotion your ex feels when they break up with you but regret it later. And while your ex feeling this emotion does increase your chances of getting them back, it doesn't guarantee that it will happen.

How long does breakup withdrawal last? ›

"After a breakup, people should expect withdrawal symptoms for roughly six months and increase their self-care and social support during this season." Of course, you should always seek professional help if things feel too out of hand.

Why does the dumper move on so fast? ›

If a secure attachment ex broke up with you, they are much more likely to move on from the breakup quickly compared to the other attachment styles. They have so much fortitude and self-confidence that they understand that there is much more to them as individuals aside from their relationship.

What is the 6 month rule in a breakup? ›

“I try and go by the 6-month rule, which says that for most of us to fully heal, it usually takes around 6 months for every year we are with someone,” Peacock says. For example: If you were with someone for 1 year, it would take 6 months to get over the breakup.

Can time apart save a relationship? ›

Taking time apart can allow you both to think about the issues in your relationship, cool off, learn new coping strategies, and come back together with a different lens or perspective that can be difficult to have when you're together and actively fighting through your issues.

Are all breakups permanent? ›

Not every breakup is permanent but that doesn't mean every couple should or will get back together. Taking a break from a relationship can sometimes be the best way to build a stronger union in the future.

How does the dumper feel after a month? ›

The dumper, after a month, feels either elation or regret. It completely depends on how real the relationship was. If the relationship was real and both partners have put in the effort then there will be regret. On the other hand, no effort or abuse leads to a very happy dumper.

How no contact affects your ex? ›

Some people may be asking, “Does No Contact work?”. While everyone's ex is different, the No Contact Rule does increase the likelihood of your ex missing you and wanting to come back. In essence, it will show them that you are not available for them whenever they want you and that you have your own life to live.

How often do exes come back? ›

With my clients, I find that 20-25% do get back together with their Exes, usually within a few months. Some repeatedly break up just to keep passion and tension alive in their relationship. And for the 20-25% that do get back together, 50% of them will break up again permanently within six months.

How do you know when a relationship is really over? ›

There's No Emotional Connection

One of the key signs your relationship is ending is that you are no longer vulnerable and open with your partner. A cornerstone of happy, healthy ​relationships is that both partners feel comfortable being truly open to sharing thoughts and opinions with one another.

How often do breakups get back together? ›

A breakup isn't always the end of the road. In fact, a hefty 60 percent of couples report getting back together again, per (opens in new tab)Psychology Today (opens in new tab).

Is it best to go no contact after a breakup? ›

The No Contact rule is so effective because it allows you to sit with your grief and wounds and not plug up any holes or feelings of brokenness with someone else, as sex and grief coach Breeshia Wade, explains.

What is the best revenge after breakup? ›

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  1. Start Exercising. Bo Stanley. ...
  2. Adjust Your Social Media. Bonninstudio. ...
  3. Forgive. There is nothing more hurtful to someone than complete indifference. ...
  4. Change Your Netflix Password. Danil Nevsky. ...
  5. Make Art.
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What does the dumper go through? ›

The dumper and the dumpee, both go through pain, anxiety, fear of loss, jealousy, hate, and reconsideration through different stages. That's why during the No contact the dumper and the dumpee swap the feelings interchangeably.

Who moves on faster the dumper or dumpee? ›

Hot take: when it comes to break-ups, ultimately it's harder on the dumper than the dumpee. The dumpee can move on quicker because they had no choice in the matter.

What are the stages of a breakup for a girl? ›

Even ifyou were the one who initiated the split, there are five stages ofgrief that you will go through. They are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, according to Mental-Health-Matters. These are the natural ways for your heart to heal.

How does a break up affect a woman? ›

Break-ups hit women the hardest emotionally and physically, but women tend to recover more fully and come out emotionally stronger. Women have more to lose by dating the wrong person but after a break-up, they are the ones who recover more fully than men, as the time heals the wounds, an interesting study has revealed.

Do girls move on faster? ›

The research indicates that men take longer time than women and struggle more to move on. In fact, the researchers observed that many male participants suffered from PRG (Post relationship Grief) at the time of the study even if they had parted ways more than a year ago.

Do females get over breakups faster? ›

Women tend to recover faster because they know how attached they are to their partners, so the shock isn't as great,” says Brown. “The pain is still there, to be sure, but it typically doesn't last as long because women intuitively know what the magnitude of the loss will be if things don't work out.”

Do girls move on fast after breakup? ›

The pain of a romantic breakup may hit women harder at first, but they recover far more quickly from the loss than men do, new research suggests. "At some point, clearly, women get over a breakup," said study author Craig Morris, a research associate at Binghamton University in New York.

What are the 5 stages of a breakup? ›

Even ifyou were the one who initiated the split, there are five stages ofgrief that you will go through. They are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, according to Mental-Health-Matters. These are the natural ways for your heart to heal.

How long does it take for a break up to sink in? ›

Studies suggest that most people start to feel better around three months post-breakup. One study, which evaluated 155 undergraduates who'd been through breakups in the last six months, found that 71 percent start to feel significantly better around the 11-week mark, or around three months.

How long does it take to get over someone you still love? ›

But just because heartbreak may feel like the end of the world, the good news is the pain won't last forever - and it certainly won't keep you from falling in love again. According to research published in The Journal of Positive Psychology, it takes 11 weeks to feel better after a relationship ends.

Who moves on faster the dumper or dumpee? ›

Hot take: when it comes to break-ups, ultimately it's harder on the dumper than the dumpee. The dumpee can move on quicker because they had no choice in the matter.

What girls do after breakup? ›

10 things every girl does after a break up
  • Overspends. On everything. ...
  • Drinks. A lot. ...
  • Stockpiles salty snacks. ...
  • Tries to be 'fine' way too soon. ...
  • Tells lies. ...
  • Tries to be mates with him. ...
  • Uploads thinly-veiled digs at him via Instagram quotes. ...
  • Turns cyber-sleuth.
20 Mar 2015

How do you know if a girl has moved on? ›

11 signs your ex has well and truly moved on
  • You're always the one that contacts them. ...
  • They treat you like a friend. ...
  • They don't make any physical contact. ...
  • They always seem to be preoccupied with something. ...
  • They don't show any signs of regret. ...
  • You don't see them as often as you used to.
2 Sept 2014

What does the dumper go through after a breakup? ›

The dumper and the dumpee, both go through pain, anxiety, fear of loss, jealousy, hate, and reconsideration through different stages. That's why during the No contact the dumper and the dumpee swap the feelings interchangeably.

How do I accept a break up? ›

Feel what you feel.
  1. Validate yourself.
  2. Practice radical acceptance.
  3. Get all of the emotions out.
  4. Use your support system.
  5. Continue to get all this out through journaling.
  6. Delete them from your life.
  7. Continue to take care of yourself.
  8. Take a break from social media.
20 Mar 2021

How do you know your ex doesn't miss you? ›

15 painful signs he doesn't miss you
  1. You always start the conversation.
  2. He doesn't check how you are.
  3. He's busy all the time.
  4. He seems to be distracted when you're together.
  5. He doesn't give genuine excuses.
  6. Long-drawn-out responses to your phone calls or messages.
  7. He is unresponsive to your phone calls or messages.
4 Jul 2022

Do breakups hit men later? ›

While the stereotype is that a breakup hits men a lot later, emerging research conducted with 184,000 participants found that men seem to be more affected by the loss of a relationship.

How do you detach from someone you love deeply? ›

How to let go of someone you love
  1. Identify the reason. Ask yourself why you're now deciding to detach from the relationship. ...
  2. Release your emotions. ...
  3. Don't react, respond. ...
  4. Start small. ...
  5. Keep a journal. ...
  6. Meditate. ...
  7. Be patient with yourself. ...
  8. Look forward.

Why does it take months for an ex to come back? ›

Put simply, they aren't sure how to handle their specific situation. To make matters worse some situations will just naturally take longer than others to see success with. There's just a naturally longer timeline. This is also one of the reasons that it can take months for an ex to come back into the picture.

How long does it take for someone to forget you? ›

In some research studies, the time it takes to forget someone is around 11 weeks. In other studies, time to forget someone was much higher at around 18 months. Such differences clearly indicate that time taken to forget someone will vary based on various conditions.


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